Q: What impact does a Daddy Daughter date have on a woman?
A: Competitive play and quality time with dad helps women form healthy relationships at the work place, at home and in the dating world.
Some parents are single dads with daughters. Did you know that one of the most influential relationships that a woman has is the one she has with her father? This affects her interactions with male coworkers, subordinates and supervisors.
If you want a good laugh to drive home the point, take a look at a clip from Nickelodeon’s Hey Arnold where Helga as “quantity time” instead of quality time with her dad.
On the home front, her relationship with her father will affect her dating life and her marriage with her husband. You can read more about this in How Can I Be Sure by Bob Philips. This is especially timely consider the popularity of weddings in summer months. You might be the Father-of-the-Bride. For more reading on parenting as a single dad, take a look at a blog post called 50 Rules for Dads.
How can others in your circle fill in the gap of a mother in your daughter’s life?
What are 3 Things you can do for a Daddy Daughter Date this Mother’s Day if your daughter is without a mom-figure?
These are 3 Tips for Single Dads with Daughters:
1. Befriend a couple without children. Dual Income No Kids (DINKs) can be great allies in parenting. You can find DINKs through sites such as DINKlife.
2. Allow the couple to host daddy daughter dates, boardgame nights and dinner parties. Accept their invite and mingle with other single dads. The New York Times reports that more dads are becoming leaders at their local Parent Teacher Associations (PTA).
3. Compete with your daughter in a playful way.
Disclosure: I have not received payment to endorse any of these games, products, companies, blogs or brands. Also my husband is not currently employed by the makers of any of these games.
For instance, my husband and I are DINKS. We love hosting dinner parties for parents with young children. My husband is even more amazing with dads and daughters because he hosted Star Wars Miniatures Tournaments for pre-teens to adults at Black Diamond Games in Concord. My husband Nik is now a children’s toy marketer. I am a former classroom teacher, kids’ camp counselor and mentor to girls.
|Photo Credit: Amazon.com Hey! That’s My Fish! Deluxe by Mayfair Games|
|Photo Credit: Amazon.com Apples to Apples by Mattel|
Our small apartment shelves are crowded with toy prototypes,dissected robots and analyzed games such as: Redakai, Heroscape, Hey! That’s My Fish!, Apples to Apples and Wasabi.
I’m also a children’s girl toy collector because I find it useful in analyzing consumer behavior of successful business women who are also raising daughters. So Nik bought me Mattel’s Monster High Ghoulia Yelps at last year’s Comicon when he was on assignment for Spinmaster toys.
How to screen DINKs. Make sure both of the individuals have been screened by LiveScan before being allowed to work with youth. If he or she has worked as a school teacher, library volunteer, youth counselor or franchise tutor they will have been screened by the police for any offenses against children.
Ask around and snoop a bit on their online profiles. Do you approve of their character and activities? Have they mentored children before with parental supervision? What do others say about them? Have an initial meeting with the couple, in a public place, and do not leave your child alone with them during the visit.
Go on a day outing with the couple and your daughter. Listen to how they speak to your child. Observe how they treat each other. Do they have a healthy relationship? Are they respectful to each other? Do they show a sincere interest in the well-being of your child?
Take your child’s feelings to heart. If she is uncomfortable with the couple for any reason, do not proceed. Continue your search in the community. You may find a mentoring couple through a church or other nonprofit. Always trust your gut. Do not rely on the reputation or fame of an organization.
Socializing with Your Daughter. When you are on a daddy daughter date at your friends’ home, jump at the opportunity to play against your friends on your daughter’s team when it’s party game time. Also let your daughter compete against you. Why? This will condition your daughter to play fair with someone she loves and respects. This will translate into amiable, respectful disagreement when she is in business meetings in the future. The Goal by Eliyahu Goldratt has interesting dialogue between dad and daughter. The Wall Street Journal reported how adult women seek out their father’s softer side too.
Also it will create life-long memories. My dad has been dead for almost four years yet I remember playing Battleship with him when I was an 8-year-old.
Yes, take the opportunity to meet other single parents but when you are on a daddy daughter date, give your child your undivided attention. You can always exchange numbers and ask an adult out on a date at another time. This is your time to bond with your kid and show her that she is a priority to you.
Daddy’s Girls grow up with a sense of confidence that will help them make good judgment about life partners and assimilate them into the working world mostly dominated by males. I played basketball in elementary school and went to business school because my dad taught me that it was okay to compete against the guys.
What are some fast-playing games for pre-teens?
|Photo Credit: Amazon.com Wasabi! by Z-Man Games|
- Bang! Dodge City Wild West
- Hey! That’s My Fish!
What are some more time-intensive games to play with your teen daughter? These games are androgynous or masculine so dads are likely to feel comfortable with the themes.
|Photo Credit: Amazon.com Star Munchkin by Steve Jackson Games|
- Lord of the Rings
- Star Munchkin
- Star Wars Minis