|Photo Credit: Gamer Couple by Gupto Tayo via Pinterest|
5 Secrets of Being a Great Gamer Boyfriend
|Photo Credit: Link via Kotaku|
Being a gamer isn’t as easy as it might sound. How does any student have time to pour hours into a game when they have finals to think about or maybe an exam or quiz? The temptations to play are relentless. But it doesn’t end there! What about work? Not all gamers have the luxury of parents paying for school or scholarships. Sleep is important too but any gamer knows that’s on the bottom of the priority list. And finally, for all you gamers that have a significant other, your second player, your adventuring companion, and gaming pretty much seems impossible. You’re probably thinking, one thing is going to thrive and it’s either your guild or your girlfriend. I’m a huge gamer and my girlfriend isn’t but we have a very healthy relationship. Luckily for you, I have five secrets to being a great gamer boyfriend that will help your relationship level up and your gaming as well.
|Photo Credit: Link and Zelda Cosplay via Cosplay Couture|
|Photo Credit: Topher Ellis and Gamer Friends Playing Ghost Recon|
BE YOURSELF! If you absolutely love video games, don’t be afraid to show it. If you meet someone or are with someone, it’s important to know things about each other. Well, one of those things that they should know about you is that you like playing video games. Now, this doesn’t mean to explain all the secret of the water temple in The Legend of Zelda: Ocarina of Time but make it known that you enjoy video games. Your girlfriend will like you for who you are and as long as you don’t come off as obsessive, I think we’re all good. Hiding your hobbies won’t help either. I don’t think any girlfriend would ever want to find out that you skipped a date because you were sick but really had a raid with your guild. That’s a big no.
|Photo Credit: Gamer Couple via Kotaku AU|
Time management. I know what it’s like to want to spend an entire weekend playing a new game that just came out that I’ve been waiting months for. Well, plan this stuff out. Don’t spring on your girlfriend that you’re not going to be able to call her for the entire weekend because you’ll be spending the next 72 hours sniping zombies from a rooftop. Plan accordingly and tell your girlfriend that you’re really excited about a game coming out and can’t wait to play it. Let her know plenty of time ahead that it’s coming out. Believe it or not, your girlfriend likes to see you happy and if sees your excitement will understand that you want to spend some time playing. And to even add to this, after showing how excited you are to play the game and saying how you want to spend hours playing it, this gives you the perfect opportunity to surprise her. Always take some time out of your gaming to give her attention. This doesn’t mean she comes second it just means when you’re not on a date with her or having couple time and you’re playing games, take a few moments to be cute with her or tell her that you love her.
|Photo Credit: Gamer Valentine by Reservoir Media via Pinterest|
|Photo Credit: Topher Ellis and Friends|
|Photo Credit: Topher Ellis and Bethany Roy|
Don’t force your hobby. Guys, we’re not all going to have a gamer girlfriend. So don’t think you can turn your NOT gamer girlfriend into your soon to be healer. If you have a girlfriend that’s into gaming, that’s great, however if she’s not a gamer, don’t force her to play. Don’t be sad if you don’t have a girlfriend that’s into gaming however be happy that’s she’s supportive of your gaming. She might not always care to watch or appreciate when you got the high score but deep down she’s happy that you’re happy. Don’t get down if you can’t convince her to learn all your favorite Poke’mon but take it for face value when your girlfriend spends 3 hours at a GameStop trying to figure out which Call of Duty you wanted and maintain trying to keep it a surprise.
Remember what gaming is to you. Whether you’re very competitive, play to have fun or just love winning, remember why you play in the first place. You’re probably wondering what this has to do with being a gamer boyfriend but it’s actually very important. Don’t use video games to escape reality or to get away from problems you might be having in your relationship. If you have a problem, take what you learn from playing video games and that doesn’t mean that you can overcome any number of obstacles with a sufficient amount of quarters. You always want to progress in the stories of the games and have to level up, train, work at it and then overcome the obstacle. Relate that to a relationship with your girlfriend. It takes work, time and dedication to make a relationship work. If gaming is the only thing you’re good at, even you can have a healthy relationship and be a great boyfriend. Be your girlfriend’s shining knight in armor. Gamer girl or not, I don’t know any girl that wouldn’t want a boyfriend that would fight for her.
|Photo Credit: Chibi Zelda by U R Geek via Pinterest|
1. It engages the kid in you =) which I love.
|Photo Credit: Topher Ellis & Bethany Roy a.k.a. “Tophany”|
5. Helping others. I know you get to destroy people in your games lol, but there’s always a hero, right? The good guys… you’ve told me before how you sorta got a “hero complex” from gaming? Well I see that Baby! I Think you were born with it =) But gaming I believe had helped develop that trait even more. You’re my hero love! <3