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How do you shop for music? Are you as selective as you might be when shopping for a gourmet holiday food gift for a girlfriend? Maybe you think that though food is perishable, you want her to take some time for herself. That’s really the point of gluten-free pistachio studded biscotti. Right?
Back to the original question: how do you shop for music? Do you know the elements that causes you to gravitate towards specific albums or bands during their less commercially popular era? Don’t expect gift music if you don’t know thyself.
When you answer in a vague music that you listen to screamo, do strangers to the subgenre of heavy metal present you with egift certificates for downloads for death metal? Instead of feeling like a greedy kid making a dissertation-long wish list for Santa, this is a fun way to know yourself better and communicate more effectively why you enjoy what delights you. Consider the following example:
First, the screamo you prefer has the techniques common to heavy metal giants. See Youtube’s timegrinder channel for “How Music Works”or truefire channel for “50 Metal Guitar Licks You Must Know” for clarification. Second, you invest your time to listen to intelligible lyrics. No condemnation of other preferences. You weren’t proficient in any foreign language class in junior high through college so vocalizing that is hard to translate feels like work rather than recreation. Third, because your late dad watched westerns with you as quality-time you seek a cowboy archetype in the heavy metal storytelling because it is nostalgic for you.
What is the proper response to an ill-suited gift? Simply, thank you. Remember the gift of handmade crosstitch of Stephen King’s evil clown “It” given with love. The only acceptable reply is, “Thank you for thinking of me.” What you do with it out of the giver’s sight such as re-gifting, donation to a charity raffle, or incineration is private. Once a gift is given, it’s hurtful to lecture a friend why it’s not you. “I’m allergic” might work.
However, I tend to agree with A Smart Girl’s Guide to Knowing What to Say by American Girl as the warmest and brightest response. Happy Holidays! Disclosure: SGL received a review copy of said book from American Girl publishers.