One of the best comedy routines I heard recently was by a Marriage Family Therapist visiting a Norcal church to give a seminar on getting along with your intimate partner using the Meyers Briggs Type Indicator as common ground. Humans are too wonderfully complex to be categorized strictly into 16 personality types. However, the Meyers Brigss have been tested in improving working relationships to diffuse conflicts in business. Since this MFT PhD was giving a testimony as well as practical tips, she shared her vulnerability with her audience. She vows to never raise a hand to her husband. Why? Because she saw the sorrow of domestic violence when her mother used to hit her father during her childhood. Comedy and practical tips can coexist and might be born from pain. The good news? Something productive was created by the speaker and the audience may have used her tips to de-escalate conflict in their home.
What are other ways of receiving care to get along better with others? Note: This is not medical or legal advice. This is an entertainment lifestyle blog. Please seek professional help for anger management and clinical depression.
- Strengthening empathy is one route. Consider visiting an interactive art exhibit to see the world through a stranger’s eyes. The Spokane Laboratory comes to mind because of recent interviews with Alan Chatham, Regina Larre Campuzano and Amanda Wallace.
- Exerting physical exercise is another. Many of our staff run, swim and bike year-round.
- Making art is another opportunity. Write, draw, sing, or compose to get your feelings out without hurting yourself or harming others. Right? For an example of how heavy metal can be soothing, revisit SmartyGirl Dawes here.
These three you already know. Our Editors want to bring you a fourth option. You’ve heard of the Maker Movement. Right? Well, we might have identified a different trend: The Unmaker Movement.
When our Editor-in-Chief Renee Marchol apprenticed at the San Francisco Children’s Creativity Museum, as an assistant educator, she validated children who chose to mash, tear and smoosh their creations. Unmaking is just as important as making for creativity. It also showed resilience in being willing to start over.
Likewise, Tim Cheung of Battle Sports in Toronto gives adults the opportunity to come back from a lunch break refreshed and incredibly serene. How? Tim describes the increasing stressors affecting the quality of life for working adults in Toronto. In particular banking professionals that work 14 hour days are likely to have toxic anger stressing out their bodies. Is taking a crowbar to a printer going to help anything?
Let me ask you another question: will jogging on the treadmill make your coworker less douchey? Not likely but you will build more emotional self control if endorphins are caressing your mind and body after exertion. Will swimming laps cause that unfeeling Mac beach ball of doom to hurry it up? Nope. Mellow? You bet.
How does it work? The cost of the Rage Room rental is based on time spent and items for disposal. Meaning? The operation costs for Battle Sports really is the disposal of recyclable and non-recyclable debris. What else? The labor and safety precautions for its workers to assist with clean up.
Customers purchase items from a smash menu. The most popular? Printers and ceramic gnomes. As far was we know these are non-sentient things that can’t sense pain or suffer metaphysically. Can a customer bring in his/her own item? Yes. Outside items undergo evaluation by Tim’s crew if it would be safe to break. For example, all things that are already on the smash menu are safe. But stuff like CRT screens and halogen bulbs are prohibited, because CRT screens are pressurized and halogen bulbs release mercury fumes when broken.
What is the most unusual request received by Tim for the Rage Room? A call from a Californian seeking to purchase debris from the room of items she did not smash. Why? It is unknown. We speculate it may be a scholar’s project. Did Tim approve the request? Not at this time because it would be cost prohibitive to ship debris by weight and Battle Sports already has its own environmental hazard protocol in place.
How did the Rage Room begin? Tim and his friends/business partners already have a thriving Archery Dodgeball facility. Tim tells me that the Americans are the originators of the sport though it is popular in Australia also. When Tim found he had room to expand, he borrowed inspiration from Serbians who were smashing things as recreation and charging for clean up.
What’s next for Battle Sports Rage Room? Tim is considering a Smash Truck much like a Food Truck but one that sells items pre-approved for smashing. Will that mean his rage room might be portable? Wait and see. Tim and his partners are also in talked to create theme packages of smash items on the menu such as Stood Up on A Blind Date and Happy Divorce.
Our Editors take the position that humans can reduce violence by self-awareness, self-control and empathy for others. Having a bit of fun with lots of dissonant noise and unmaking can be a form of self-care.
“Tim Cheung thinks all fries should be double-fried. He also finds it incredibly fulfilling to slam a crowbar into a printer, and hopes that one day he can do so in zero-gravity.”